Tuesday, September 28, 2010

back on schedule and obsessions

it took about a week of sleepless nights and red-eyed parents before we were back on normal central-time schedule. much better now.

it's getting much cooler. the beaches are closed (and too cold anyway), Ella is wearing her new sneakers instead of sandals, and we tried on last-year's oversized outwear and were relieved that it still fits (actually it's just the right size now). we're ready for snow. (but not eagerly waiting).

school is great. it's much easier to drop Ella off at school in the morning than get her to leave in the afternoon. we have to bribe her with promises of Hummus and cookies (that await at home) in order to make it to the car. many times we make it to the car screaming and kicking.
many of the older kids (2-3yo) graduated on to different schools, and now Ella is one of the older kids there. can you imagine that??? there are four older kids in her group, two of which will also leave at the end of the month. i have mixed feelings about that. on one hand, she will get more one-on-one with Coffy. on the other hand, she learned tons from the older kids. and on yet the other hand some of the things she learned from the older kids are not great (see kicking and screaming above).
so we'll see how this turns out. she's a smart kid.

a smart kid with obsessions. yes, she's a little obsessive sometimes. to the old stair-climbing obsession we now add opening and closing gates; soap bubbles; and the worst of all: keys.
we were in ignorant bliss when she stopped putting our keys in her mouth (the plastic set of keys i got her didn't interest her one bit). now she's intent on using the keys the same way we use them, for opening doors. urgh! if it were up to her, i would have had to hold her up for 10 minutes by the front door while she tries to put the (wrong) key in the lock. she wouldn't accept help, and her failure to operate the lock frustrates her.

does anyone know where we can buy this lock and key toy? if you have a used one we'll take it off your hands. if we can't find one we'll make one ourselves (buy locks at home depot and screw them to a board). hopefully we'll get to it before she moves on to a new obsession.

it's not all bad though. Ella's communication skills are improving -- she's using more and more words every day, and can communicate what she wants much better, which leads to less melt-downs. she understands and follows requests (give it to abba, go to your chair, etc) and can indicate if she wants something that we offer (usually she says "no"). she's mastered the "help please" and "up please" instead of whining. she knows how to ask for several things. she names toys, shapes, and some of the numbers. hooray! i'm happy now that she's learning to speak, i know i'll curse in a couple of years when she doesn't stop talking.

10 comments:

Karin said...

I wish we had a lock and key toy to give to you! Alas, we don't. I feel like I've seen one at the Toys R Us up here on Milwaukee & Golf though.....if I come across one I'll let you know :)

Good luck with obsessions....I've been waiting for Liam to outgrow his car / truck obsession for 2 years now.....

keren said...

thanks, Karin! maybe we'll stop there on our way on Saturday and look for one :)

Kari said...

please? really, she says please? wow - i'm impressed. that's great! glad you are back to your routine - I know how important that is. :)

Sandy K. said...

I surely cannot understand where her obsession tendency came from (have I mentioned that Ben spent probably two months around her age demanding that we "turn it on," referring to the stereo system? We finally found a little Fisher-Price record player for him and he spent upwards of 45 minutes at a time with the thing.) And as far as doing things herself without help? Can't figure that one either (unless you count just about everything Ben ever learned to do because he most certainly did not want anyone else helping him to do anything at that age.) So I guess those must be Sharon traits. ;)

Orly Gnat said...

Search for "Parents Animal Hospital" on amazon. 6 doors, 6 keys :-)
Liat still loves this one.

You can also try the Melissa & Doug Deluxe Latches Board. No key, but many different locks. We had it at daycare, and some kids were addicted...

Good luck!

keren said...

thanks Orly, we just got "critter clinic" ($20 @target), it seems to be about the same idea -- 6 keys, 6 doors. but they're not REAL keys, so not as appealing!
for now we're hiding all real keys and when she asks for keys ("keys!" while looking for my pocket) i point at the toy house and say "i don't have any keys, here, the blue key opens the blue door" etc. sigh.

Orly Gnat said...

These (below) were also a big success with Liat for a while. The keys are actually made of metal, and the remote beeps, and has a little light. For a while these were the only fake keys that were convincing... plus she was very proud to have "her own" set.
We got them at target.

Our keys obsession faded in a couple of months... so hang in there :-)

http://www.amazon.com/METAL-KEYS-ELECTRONIC-PARENTS-colors/dp/B000I62M3Y/ref=sr_1_12?s=gateway&ie=UTF8&qid=1285871551&sr=8-12

Kari said...

our preschool has a Melissa & Doug Deluxe Latches Board (http://www.amazon.com/Melissa-Doug-Deluxe-Latches-Board/dp/B000NVBE1A/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1285969912&sr=8-11) which seems pretty similar to what you are looking for...

dikla said...

ella is so smart, teach her to open the door witthe right key - it'll be easier than trying to convince her to play with the fake ones.
BTW - obsessions don't go away, she'll just change this one for another one. it's what makes parenting so... fun/ frustrating/ tedious/exciting/ tiring/ all of the above.

dikla said...

ella is so smart, teach her to open the door witthe right key - it'll be easier than trying to convince her to play with the fake ones.
BTW - obsessions don't go away, she'll just change this one for another one. it's what makes parenting so... fun/ frustrating/ tedious/exciting/ tiring/ all of the above.