good news! we finally found a daycare center for Ella. we all like the place, and has an opening for her in September. we visited there twice, the kids seem very happy there, and Ella enjoyed watching them all run around and do stuff -- playing, making music, and singing. we liked the teachers too.
i didn't realize how stressed i was by daycare till just now. but it's done, we gave a deposit, and are very happy with our choice.
The couple who run the "school" came by today to see Ella at her home environment, so that they can tailor her activities and napping atmosphere to her specific needs. they gave us a couple of documents, and a CD with their music.
Ella loved them.
this afternoon we played the CD and danced to the music, and Ella was smiling and laughing and squealing! it made me even happier :D my face muscles hurt from smiling so hard for so long.